Good morning my crafty friends,
Since I seem to be in a therapeutic mood this week I have spent alot
of time in my craft room sorting out feelings of helplessness and extreme pain.
I was appreciative of the kind hearts that responded to my
Faith No More layout, everyone was ver understanding and to put it simply
this is a horribly difficult time to watch my son in pain.
This is sort of part 2.
Watching my son go through this and having people tell me that
it's fine and he is old enough to deal with it. Now you know why I have
been quite lately and struggling to get by.
This is my son who has been told for 2+ weeks now every day
“You don't belong here in TN” “You don't belong here in MY school!”
“Move back to Oregon where you belong” “You should just go away”
“I hate you” “Your friend is a wimp” “Your friend hates you”
“No one likes you” “Your a bad person” “You need to leave”
“Your dad sucks” “Your family should be in jail” “You are not wanted here”
“Your mom is fat” “Your mom is MEAN” “You are not allowed to talk
to my friends” “Stay away from my friends” “You suck at baseball”
“Your a terrible pitcher” “You shouldn't be allowed to play ball”
“You don't belong in this school” “You need to go away”
I instructed my son to walk away, every day for 3 weeks he has
walked away. He does not respond only walks away.
I explain to him that this child will tire of yelling at him and if he walks
away it will pass. I tell him to just stay away from him.
Every witness in school admits he walked away. The last time
AFTER 3 weeks he stood up and said “SHUT UP” he did not hurt the child,
but after he kept taunting he put his hand up in a stop motion and
his fingers lightly brushed (principals words were 2 fingers lightly
touched) the bullies cheek. No damage done but I certainly reprimanded
my son letting him know I do not condone any physical contact.
Every day for 3 weeks he comes home with tears in his eyes. Every day
he wakes in the middle of the night. He is 10. Other physical symptoms
begin to appear.
The principal tells me this is NOT bullying and he is a big boy.
The principal tells me that the other boy “feels” bullied so it's ok.
The principal tells me she is more concerned about if I speak out
publicly on Facebook about him being bullied then if he is being
permanently damaged by the actual “NON- bullying”.
The other boys parents tell me that he has every right to speak to my
son this way because he has every right to speak his own opinion.
They do not care my son is being injured, only saving face.
If this were your child, what would you do?
Would you sit silent and show your child it's ok to sit in the corner and
let it happen? How would you feel with your hands tied?
I was told I am not allowed to speak out publicly about my son being
bullied because the bully is simply being bossy not bullying.
Is this being bossy??
My other son who is 2 years younger has been approached by the
boy they claim is not bullying, he was told “Your mom is mean”
“I hate your mom” “Your mom is fat”.
My son came home telling me that an older child hates me.
Is this not bullying? When I approached the principal I was told
“Well I don't know how that happened” nothing was done. NOTHING
is being done.
The bully was rewarded with attendance to big parties at school while
my sons we punished with Dr.'s visits and missing the last few days of
school on Dr.'s orders because of physical and emotional issues.
My hands are tied, I am instructed not to speak publicly, I am instructed
that I have no rights and my children need to just deal with it.
I am to just “Deal with it and stay quiet” I am promised if I remain silent
this issue will go away.
Are they going to come to my home and comfort my children for the next
few years as they deal with not being bullied? I have no rights, I have no voice.
It reminds me of my childhood being raped and abused.
I regret telling him to walk away and not removing him from school sooner.
I regret my sons must suffer 3 more years in this school where no one cares.
I regret that they will be punished because I speak out. But I won't be silenced anymore!
Anyways, things will get better I am sure as we are out of school for now.
I worry for his safety and health later. But for now we take it day by day.
This is the best for of therapy for me to deal with these feelings, by
expressing it through my art. No one can tell me I cannot express
myself through my artistic ability, it really is the USA and I do have that right.
Have a wonderful day....say prayers for my children this week please.....
Products Used: Tally Scrapper May Kit